Signs Your In A Codependent Relationship
Do you ever wonder if your in a codependent relationship? It is important if you think you are to understand the signs your in a codependent relationship. Your not the only one. A good definition for codependency is the excessive amount of emotional and psychological reliance one has on a partner. The need to feel you must control, fix and cure another. It is disguised as one who loves to help others but secretly often without the person knowing they are only trying to ease their own anxiety and need to control others and their surroundings.
A codependent relationship is a relationship that is unequal. One partner clearly and consistently gives more effort in the relationship. They attempt with all means to do the doing of fixing the other person.
10 Signs Your In A Codependent Relationship
- Do you place your partners needs before your own?
- Your partner’s desires and needs are deemed as much more important than yours.
- Do you often feel the need to take responsibility and create excuses for their behavior?
- Your finding yourself taking care of their needs and neglect all together those of your own.
- A sense of guilt comes over you at the idea of doing something for yourself.
- Your anxiety increases every time your loved one has a perceived problem. You want to jump right in and fix it.
- Being wanted, and needed comes before your own need to love and be loved. You truly believe that love is the same as being needed.
- Your internal dialogue says that your not worthy enough and cannot find a partner that is better than the one your with now.
- The daily thought process is worry, guilt, and obsessing over things your partner has done.
- You play the role of the victim. Your always hurt and upset. You feel used and unappreciated.
Signs Your In A Codependent Relationship and Where To Find Help
Recovering from Codependency and Getting the help you Need
Absolutely you can recover. This is not about your partner, it is about your willingness to change. We realize in recovery that each and every individual is 100% responsible for their actions and the results of their own life. Your job is to stay focused on you. Take care of your own necessities. The relationship will then change for the better. No longer feel the need to grasp and control things.
Through the use of support groups, therapy, daily meditations and affirmations you can easily make the transition from focusing on others to focusing on you A great 12 step program called AL-ANON is a community based group that meets to support others who are struggling with the idea of trying to fix and control others. You have the support and strength of listening to others who feel or have felt the same as you.
Understanding how you can make the return back to the heart center and love fully who you are without guilt and anxiety is the key. Knowing that fear is the underlying emotion controlling your thoughts helps you to identify less with the mind and tap into the spirit or essence of who you are. Call today and let’s start the return back to self.
