1. Lack of effective communication.

At the onset of a relationship the conversations are fun and interesting. You both spend tons of time together and get to know each other. As time goes by though, you both forget to ask new and exciting questions. It starts to get stale. Don’t make the assumption that you already know each other.

2. Trust.

How well do you trust your partner? Do you trust each other well enough to feel totally comfortable with them going out for a meal with another person? If not then perhaps your relationship if full of insecurities and is in a fragile state. Do you trust the decisions your partner makes? Are you able to trust that he or she can make a solid healthy decisions for both of you? If not then maybe there is little to no respect for the others opinion.

3. Jealousy/insecurity.

Couples that are insecure get locked into a vicious cycle of anger and jealously. You find yourself jealous when your partner gets a promotion or the spotlight is on them. Why wouldn’t you be thrilled for the person you say you love? Are you helping them to become a better individual? Learning to have faith in each other is key. Enjoy each other’s life successes.

4. Incompatibility.

Infatuation and starstruck love can last for a while. I always say about 4-6 months. As great as you think the other person is, they may not be the match for you. That is not bad or wrong. It just means you have different visions and goals for your life.

5. Loss or decrease in sex drive.

Both are bound over time to start to lose the urge for sex that you once had at the very beginning. It starts to often feel like a chore or an obligation to many. This problem is very common with couples. It is easy to solve though. Switch things up. Be creative and find new interesting ways to have sex that keep the relationship on fire.

6. Money.

Any person given a long enough time in a relationship knows how important the topic of money is or lack there of. I hate to admit is but through conditioning, the majority of people determine their worth and happiness on how others perceive them. If you seem to be having money problems and your afraid of being scrutinized by friends and family, then maybe it is time to move away from them.

7. Priorities Change.

Even though your in a relationship does not mean that it has to change the person you are. This is assuming that you know who you are independent of a relationship. This is where a big problem can start. Individuals change and evolve over time. We are not the same person we were a year ago or even six months ago. Your partner is also changing. Some of these changes may bring you both into better alignment or may pull you apart. You may wake up one day and find you have nothing really in common. Keep talking about your plans and dreams. Make it a priority to help each other grow.

8. Time.

Are you finding the time to be with each other? Today it seems that time is a luxury that many think they cannot afford. When a couple starts to spend large amounts of time away from each other, it can have negative effects and you both can start to drift away. Don’t go to far away. Stay in contact. Create a healthy habit of finding new passions or hobbies you both enjoy. Schedule date night and go for a nice dinner and walk around a park.

9. Space/Individual growth.

Often times we can become clingy in a relationship. Too much time is not always a good thing. Yes it’s important as noted above to spend time together but don’t lean on each other for emotional support. It is important to spend time apart with friends or enjoying your own alone time. Be mindful of this. When we cling it can feel smothering. One partner may be craving attention that the other is not wanting to give because they feel cramped. It is your job to take care of your own emotional needs.

10. Are you both still in love?

This is a big problem area in relationships. It is one of he hardest challenges to overcome. To stay in love is not easy. You must first learn to love yourself. The art of love is like a delicate dance. It requires balance between independence, interdependence and passion. Do you need your partner or do you love and enjoy their company? What holds you both together once the honeymoon phase is over? Sex alone will not keep couples together and healthy.

If you and your partner are finding that your having relationship problems, then it’s time for help. Remove the stigma of therapy and understand the many benefits that it can bring to improving your relationship. A therapist can help to guide you through the rough patches.

My approach is very collaborative. I will never say that one partner is clearly wrong and the other is right. Each person has their own perception of how they see reality. It is my job to see the system and cycles that are bringing in the difficulties and snagging up the relationship. Couples counseling as well as individual counseling can be utilized throughout your time in therapy. Give it a try. What do you have to lose? Relationship Problems Orlando and understanding how to get balance and alignment.