Many people set unrealistic expectations for themselves. Then, they drive themselves extremely hard around the clock to meet those expectations. Even if they succeed at meeting one expectation, they are never really content because there is always a higher expectation that gains their attention. Setting realistic expectations is a great way to lower the stress in your life.

Identify Your Values

Many people hold themselves up to yardsticks in other people’s lives. It may be to have as much money as Warren Buffett, to be as pretty as Blake Lively or to have a perfect marriage like President Ronald Reagan. The problem is that while some may achieve one of these things, most people attempt to have them all, and that is unrealistic. Instead, take a careful inventory of your own life and determine what matters most to you. Then, focus on that area.

Evaluate Your Expectations

Make sure that your expectations are things that you can achieve in your life. One way to do this is to set SMART expectations, just like you do SMART goals. Your expectations should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely. After all, most people will not be the most handsome man in the world because they were not blessed with the genetics to make it happen. Additionally, start with little expectations and reward yourself for obtaining them. Then, you will be inspired to work towards even bigger aspirations.

Quiet Your Fears

Do not be like many other individuals who let fear stand in the way of obtaining their expectations. Meditation can help your body get rid of the tension caused by fear, so you are freer to meet your expectations. You may also want to make a list of things that help you overcome anxiety and carry it with you always. Exercise releases happy hormones in your body, quieting your fight-or-flight instinct. Eating a healthy diet can also help you soothe your fears.

Accept Who You Are

Many people find it difficult to accept that they are a unique individual. The things you heard as a child may leave you feeling like you are never good enough. Attending individual counseling in Orlando is a great way to learn techniques to get rid of those thoughts in your head that you are never good enough. Once you do, you will find it much easier to meet your expectations.

Accept Messy Moments

People sometimes feel that they never meet their expectations because they set them unrealistically high for moments that almost no one pulls off perfectly. Examples include dropping your child off for their first day of school, dropping the teen off at their college dorm and their wedding. Accepting that life is filled with messy moments allows you to relax and live in the moment.

Attending individual counseling in Orlando is a great way to set realistic expectations and work towards meeting them. Contact High Expectations Counseling to get started today.