In order for therapy to be successful it will depend on each person’s level of commitment and motivation to the therapy process. Successful therapy depends on being able to clearly identify goals both on an individual level and as a couple. It is important to discuss how expectations of oneself and the other get in the way quickly. These expectations lead to resentments. A couple can learn to be better at effectively communicating and listening. Finding more effective ways to support each other.

It is important for me to discuss with the couple in the first session that if they both want to work on saving the relationship they must learn to be objective and to work on dropping the blame game. The black and white thinking that comes with expectations of each other. Of course this is a place where sensitive topics are discussed. It is only normal that buttons will be pressed and cause each other moments of anger and frustration. If you can both try to understand that this is the place for me to see these emotions come out then I can help to navigate you though the storm.

I suggest you come to therapy with an open mind and be flexible to suggestions in regards to how the sessions may continue after the first initial meeting. Couples are asked to come in together for the first session. This is important for me in regards to listening to how you both communicate. I can pick up on the cycles that are reoccurring. By attending together I can quickly see where the relationship has gone astray. When blaming and personalizing begins I quickly see what the core issue is.

I will ask often for the couple to tell me what it is that attracted them together. I will ask them what it was they expect from the relationship. Many times I will also ask for them to each tell me their definitions of Love, Respect and Trust. Both realize they have not discussed their ideas, hopes and dreams.

After the first session with both of the partners, I will usually ask to see each individually for session. There are always issues that must be resolved in the individual. These issues are mostly brought in from early childhood and past relationships. We keep playing out these issues and carry them into new relationships. This is the point at which only one may be willing to do the work and continue. All it really takes is for one person to shift. Don’t let your pride and ego get in the way. Your missing out on the best healing you can give yourself.

I keep my sessions running for a solid 90 to 120 minutes. You cannot receive effective therapy in 50 minutes. There needs to be time for you to really dig in and get the work done. Work that ask you to simply look at the fears and conditioning that are replaying the story you make up about who you are. About how you see yourself in the context of others. Counseling is not suppose to be long term. You never want to be dependent on a therapist for advice or used as a score keeper for your relationship. Understand more about my approach to understand my theoretical approach with couples. Orlando Couples Counseling near me. Start the journey in the right direction.