Marriage Help

Marriage Help and being rescued or right is something everybody is seeking today. Why is everybody so miserable in their marriage? Throw in arguing and calling it love? So let me ask you a question, what is your definition of love? When you and your wife or husband were standing at the altar taking the vows did you explain or understand what it meant to love each other? Did the two of you sit down together and say “these are the expectations I have of you and I will be pissed off if they are not met?”

Of course not. We walk blindly into a relationship and into a marriage because we are telling ourselves a story that is conditioned by any and everything and everyone outside of our self. That would include our parents, religion, school, society, government, religious beliefs, any and everything around us shaved are thinking. Do you think that you have an original idea you came up with on your own? Well you don’t. Everything you think has been touched by some outside event, concept, belief and event.

Marriage Help

We are as human beings condition to pull information or memories from the past and then predict the future which creates the present moment. So we assume that because something happened in the past that it definitely will happen again in the future. Law of attraction calls it right to the front door and that’s why we live in a state of lack or not good enough. Easily we could choose to live heaven here on earth. Instead we are enslaved to our minds and live in a constant state of fear. Anxiety, depression and worry rule the mind of the one is unable to stay present and in this moment.

Marriage Help

How well do you know each other really?

We believe we know the person we marry but I doubt that that person really truly understands themselves. If we could do an assessment before marriage what would some of the questions look like that a couple may want to ask before taking the plunge?

Do you have any expectations placed on me that you have not discussed yet? I am not sure if I can fulfill them.
If you need me to need you in the marriage then I think we may get frustrated. Do you think that is my job or yours?
Do you rely on my to make you happy once we are married?
What childhood stories are you bringing into the relationship? Have you done any work to clear them up?

It is funny to think of asking these questions but they are the ones that land a couple on the couch in my office. Think about who you are and doing the individual work on self before getting into a marriage and repeating the same cycles from childhood.