Marriage counseling Orlando, seeks to look at systems of communication and patterns that have been going on for several years that no longer are effective or is causing increased conflict and discord. These systems over time tend to continue and play out in relationships causing more and more anger and frustration. Marriage Counseling is very beneficial.
It is important for you both to do individual work to find your own alignment. We must shift our narrative or belief that it is someone else’ responsibility to make you happy. We place unrealistic expectations and create assumptions that go unspoken. Before we know it we find ourselves frustrated with our partner for not upholding their end of the bargain. We need to be able to know what our triggers and buttons are. Then instead of blaming each other the work starts when you look inside to see why your getting triggered. Why are you taking it so personally?
What Marriage Counseling Orlando is Not:
- A place to embarrass the other partner in an attempt to get the therapist to “take sides”. We must seek to not blame or else you and your partner become defensive all the time.
- A last ditch effort to save a toxic marriage. Many come in thinking that if they can get their partner into therapy they will change. The change must come from both of you. There needs to be a true desire and commitment to take ownership and a desire to really learn to listen and communicate. Don’t come in and go through the motions. It’s a waste of everyone’s time.
- An opportunity to get a professional to “back you up” and say that you are right and the other partner is wrong. Both are equally part of the problems and the solutions. You each see life slightly different because you are two separate individuals.
Marriage Counseling Orlando
Counseling for couples is about restoring balance, both partners feeling appreciated and validated. Listening and seeing how each other can not only improve the relationship but improve themselves as a whole.
All too often a couple has forgotten to get back to the basics of what attracted them in the first place. They are caught up in the blame game that seems to go nowhere. As your therapist it is my job to help each couple take ownership and responsibility for their part in the issues that brought them to therapy. To work towards learning healthy patterns of communication so each feel appreciated, heard and validated.
Marriage Counseling Orlando and the Baggage We Bring In
Adults bring years of their own experiences from past relationships. Family of origin issues and their own belief systems about relationships. With these expectations they try force their opinions on the other and change that person. They have set unrealistic expectations on their partner and/or themselves. They find they are disappointed, anxious, angry and distraught when these expectations are not met. Rediscovering each other for the first time is key to learning a new method of reengaging in the relationship. This builds a strong and lasting bond.
Most couples, similar to family counseling rarely come into therapy both highly motivated and ready to work on improving their relationship. One is felt dragged into session. It becomes a last ditch effort to save the marriage. It’s important for me to remember that much like family therapy, I am looking at systems of communication and patterns that have been going on for several years. The patterns that no longer are effective or never were in the first place.
Marriage Counseling Orlando - Individual and Together
Some therapists want to meet individually with the clients and then have them together at certain times throughout therapy. I believe the best work with couples is done with both involved and present at the first session. There are the exceptions of course. Signs of emotional, physical or verbal abuse from the other partner. Also if one of the partners is dealing with deep wounds from the past and are unable to move ahead without individual therapy to work on past family of origin issues. These issues do not relate to the present relationship but are affecting it.
Marriage Counseling and Relationships Orlando - Specialties
Looking at past patterns of dating and moving forward into new relationships with a much healthier mindset and a better sense of self.
Learning the importance of what codependency is, how it affects the relationship and help for overcoming the need to care take, fix and control.
Seeking help and guidance to set you and your partner up for a great fresh start in your marriage.
Understanding the approach a therapist takes is important to successfully healing the breakdown in communication. My approach is unique and effective.
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Understand the key components to what makes a marriage healthy. You will be surprised how little it has to do with the other person.
Learn how to navigate through the tough waters and come out the other side a better person. Full of love and awareness. Learn to use your break up as a great wealth of information for future ones to come.
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