Mutual respect is key for these couples that maintain a healthy marriage. This means that no matter how mad they may get over a given topic, they enjoy each other’s company. Of course they know their partners trigger point. Their likes or dislikes, their partners personality quirks, hopes and their dreams.
What sets them apart is that they show daily small and large gestures of positive regard for each other.
EXAMPLE:
Bob works very long hours so that his wife can stay home with their two children. Many would see these long hours as a problem. The wife could feel disconnected to Bob. Instead of frustrated, they have found a method of staying connected. They text or talk frequently throughout the day. If she has a Dr’s appointment he always calls to wish her well. They talk after the visit to see how it went. If Bob has a big meeting that day, his wife, Susan, makes it a point to call before. She wants to encourage him. After the meeting they touch base to see how it went.
At dinner time she saves the drumsticks for Bob knowing they are his favorite. Even though he is not religious, he still goes with her to church each Sunday. He knows it’s important to her. These are the small but important ways that both Bob and Susan are maintaining a healthy friendship which is at the foundation of the love they have for each other.
