Family Help
Family Help is often hard to ask for. It takes a lot of courage to ask for someone you do not know to come right inside the family system and know your business. A strong bond in the family will create security, structure and happiness for each. When the kids display behavior problems this may be a sign that something is out of balance in the house. Parents are quick to discipline or ignore the problems. There are red flags to look out for and to use as a guide post.
Seeking help for your family is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. To be able to communicate effectively, learn how to listen when it’s most important and to be present in the moment are a blessing. Many parents claim to be actively participating in the lives of their children but they are thinking of 10,000 things in their mind as a child is trying to show them a picture they drew at school.
How Family Help Works
When you first attend therapy I ask that the entire family come to session. If for some reason one of the members refuses I still recommend all of the others attending. It’s important for me as a therapist to see the family system live and in the present moment. This way I’m able to pick up on eye contact verbal, nonverbal cues, body language and overall interaction.
I’m able to see who is controlling the conversation, who is becoming the avoid-er, comedian, scapegoat, hero, enabler etc. These are all archetypes originally created by Carl Jung. They help to describe the main roles family members play. These roles are created due to tension, abuse, addiction in the home, overbearing and controlling parent, or avoid-ant parents and much more.
Therapy attempts to recognize the roles each individual is taking on and to unroll from having to play the part. The goal is to feel comfortable speaking their truth. Understanding that each member has their own way of seeing things and their own perspective. This awareness is vital and plays a key role in bringing the family together. If parents can allow themselves to not condition the child in the way of their upbringing they’ll understand that children need to and will attempt to create their own individuality in the system. If not, early on with your child characteristics such as fighting, screaming, biting, etc. create as an offshoot of not being able to speak their voice.
Family Help
No Need to Be So Proud
Be the family that is bringing forth awareness and allows all the members to have a shared voice. This by no means is the type of approach that does not give the parents final say so when making decisions. It means that there are better ways for families to operate then using the authoritative strict disciplinarian style.
Often times the parents may be asked to come back individually or the children may be seen but that will be determined after the first session. It all depends on which family member needs the most work or has the larger issue at hand.
Family Help
Get It Now
Call now and let’s start the journey of healing the family. It’s the best work that you all can do. It will bring you together on so many different levels and give each member a true understanding of not only each other but of self. Read more about my approach and how I conduct individual, marriage, and more on family therapy.
