The perception for most when it comes to being alone is that it is better to be dead than to be alone. There’s no sense of the “I” present. The “I am” which is the total of all that is and ever will be. Totality and pure consciousness. The deep knowing of self and the blissful state of the present moment. This moment is always here to remind us, should we listen, that all is well.

Instead we live a conditioned life such as that of a puppet. Not one single viewpoint or thought is original or of our own making. It is the conditioning of all of society, your family, religion, school and everything outside of self that makes up every thought which leads to our behaviors.

In our household growing up for many people that are 35 and older, communication was not common in the home. Children were told to not feel emotions, or that we did not deserve or have the right to feel a certain way. Many parents told their children that their opinion did not matter, and that we cannot show feelings. We are told to shove those feelings down which led to imploding instead of handling our feelings effectively.

In return we never communicated or knew how to. This led to anger, frustration, and a sense that we were not worthy. Today in our society, we see parents running from the authoritative parenting style to the helicopter parenting style. This is where kids are raised to vocalize everything. Every little feeling, emotion, pain and ache. The parents are so afraid of letting their kids feel any of what they perceived as painful in their childhood. They smother, hover and enable the child to run the show. They do not see the child and meet their needs. The parent is solely meeting their own needs and fear that is causing tremendous anxiety.