Codependency Counseling Orlando and the word codependency is a term people throw around today in modern society but have no real understanding of the severity and harmful affects it has another person. It is a state of being or condition where a person fixates and focuses on attempting to live through or for another person. Attempts to do so are disguised by manipulation and controlling the others the actions, outcomes, etc.
There is an obsessive earning much like that of an addicts urge to use drugs, to take care of another, void of self. When the codependent is blocked by attempts to fix others, they will experience such intense anxiety. Their whole purpose they believe is to play out the role of the sacrificial caretaker. This pattern of compulsiveness along with the urge to focus and fixate on others is an attempt to not have to look at themselves. They are unable to see clearly that they are fearful in life. Attempting to control their outside environment is way to feel safe and valid.
This is a learned behavior passed down from generation to generation especially in women over the past decades. The codependent has learned to develop dysfunctional behaviors in an attempt to survive in a family that is unstable, unpredictable and causes tremendous feelings of unrest, insecurity and great emotional pain and stress.