Perfectionism and Breaking Free
Throughout life, most people strive to “be the best,” whether in school, at sports, at a craft; anything they put their minds to must be perfect. Later in life, being a perfectionist can limit personal development and accomplishments. This is because most perfectionists will only do things they are good at, they work hard to stay within their comfort zone and to make that area a perfect place.
Perfectionism is a hard life
Once the perfect walls are shattered, self-realization and actuation become tools. These tools allow you to face your flaws and be able to say, “I can.” “I can do this,” “I can make mistakes,” “I am good enough” — these phrases become guidelines for accomplishment when trying something you’ve never done before. When you are living in the space of “I can,” in the world where you are good enough, you can do anything. It’s about looking at the conditioning and the fear that is tied to our internal dialogue.
It takes time to realize that perfectionism is debilitating. Once the realization has been made, you can start working on the issue.
5 Steps to Freedom from Perfectionism
1. Make mistakes.
If you’re not allowing yourself to make mistakes, you’re not breaking out of your safe “perfection box.” If you don’t like the way you are currently living, then you aren’t making enough mistakes.
2. Let others make mistakes.
You can’t control anyone or anything other than yourself. Allow yourself and others to be human.
3. No negative self-talk.
Practice becoming aware of your inner dialogue, catch your negativity, recognize it, and let go. If it isn’t helping you, it’s not worth thinking about. For those that need a physical action to get rid of negative thoughts, write the thought down, crumple it up, and tossing it out (or recycle).
Make the invitation, set the appointment, book the flight, start your blog, whatever it is, Just do it. You have the tools already. Don’t give yourself the opportunity to try to make it perfect. If you just do it, you’ll be able to see how a new project simply comes along and the next step will show up naturally.
5. Focus on your little wins.
Don’t quit, even if you lack a sense of accomplishment. Maintain that feeling of progress. Make action-based goals, not just result-based goals.
With these steps and daily practice, you will be able to break out of your perfectionism and move toward a happier life filled with normal, human nature and mistakes.
Spirituality counseling and life coaching are a great combination for those who find themselves trapped by this idea that they must be perfect. There is no definition for perfect. Let’s start working together to unravel this mind set and get you on the path to freedom from the anxiety you face everyday trying to be perfect.